Chris and Pat are two students who've known each other for a month. They met in history class and have studied together several times since then. They discovered that they have several things in common: they each go to school as well as work part time, they both enjoy history, mountain biking, handball, and cookouts. Naturally, they don't have everything in common, though.

Pat has some pretty liberal views about sex, seeking it out more for pleasure than involvement in any kind of committed relationship. Pat enjoys being an initiator of relationship and sexual encounters. Getting to know Chris has been fun for Pat, who finds the relationship stimulating both intellectually and sexually. Pat can't wait to realize some of this stimulation and to be sexually involved with Chris.

Chris, however, prefers to know someone quite well before becoming sexually involved. Chris seeks a potential for a deepening relationship and has begun to really like Pat. Chris thinks Pat is very attractive and finds it enticing and stimulating when they are together. However, Chris doesn't know Pat well enough yet to be comfortable with sexual involvement beyond maybe kissing or cuddling... well, it isn't something Chris is prepared for. At least Chris isn't sure yet. Sex isn't something that Chris can morally treat casually.

Chris and Pat have not discussed their sexual values with each other.

On this particular evening they had gone to a party at a friend's house and are now relaxing back at Pat's place. They both had a very good time and enjoyed each others' company at the party. Since returning Pat has been actively attempting to seduce Chris in to having sex. Chris really would rather not and indicated this to Pat saying, "This doesn't feel like the right time, I don't know you well enough", and pushing Pat's hands away. Pat is very sensual and very convincing... and although Chris did say "No" a few times in the beginning, because of Pat's continued urging, and a fear of Pat's disappointment, Chris stops refusing and gives in to Pat's persistent seduction. Chris ends up spending the night. The next morning Chris feels hurt and becomes angry because of the violation of personal values, regretting that they hadn't gotten to know each other better first. Over the next few days Chris withdraws from Pat and then ends the relationship, leaving Pat confused.

You are on a student conduct board. Chris has accused Pat of sexual misconduct and shared with you the above information. Pat's perception is that they were being delightfully romantic and that there was mutual consent. Pat is devastated and confused by the charge.

Using the communications map and the state law from page 6 of the Sexual Violence and Privacy Violations booklet respond to the questions on page 7 of your workbook.